One of the big ideas that arose in last week’s ongoing Wild Mind class was this notion of “Curate Your Life”. It’s an interesting idea, one that alternately teases and encourages us to identify, decide on and choose the kind of life experience we desire. If we are totally delighted with all aspects our lives as is, no change is required. If we’re not, and we wish to step into fuller self-expressions in any area of our lives, this idea requires us to recognize that we may have to change how we think about our lives, and how we choose to live.
This notion can be problematic if we are resistant to change, or we believe we don’t have the power to make a change and have it stick. Most of us have a lot of evidence (and a lot of experience) about how hard it is to change habits. Sometimes it seems easy to feel that we are powerless over our own life choices and life experiences. This is not the truth of who we are, and may very well be our entire awareness, based on our past experiences.
How do we move from living from what-we-have-always-known into a different future? Willingness to step into a different life experience, and to adjust or modify our thinking and actions accordingly, are just the first steps. The next step is to persistently reapply and re-implement this new decision as many times as it takes, until it becomes the new habit. Challenging? Yes. Impossible? No. Persistence is key, and not shaming, blaming, or guilting ourselves when we fail. What would it take to just keep getting back up and moving ahead? This shift of mindset is probably the most difficult, because we have all been acculturated into believing that we have to discipline, or punish, ourselves when we fail, or that we are stuck with what we know. What if neither of those things are true?
An additional thought from Dr David: “I’ve rediscovered the valuable distinction between change and transformation. Change gives me the liberty to revert back to what I changed from, i.e. change my mind, change my habits, or change my job. Change leaves me a window of opportunity to return to the old thought, habit or action. Transformation does not. Just like an oak tree cannot return to being an acorn, one who is a conscious transformationalist sheds labels, patterns and even identities to align with their inherent ever-expanding nature. Devotion to transformation doesn’t include comfort seeking. Its intentional prayer passes from our heart to our lips by saying, ‘Onward, along the path of my soul’s greatest expression.’ Personally, I feel that the time for such devotion is needed more than ever. I consciously shed limitations, excuses and loyalties to people and things that are not congruent with this universal beckoning.”
As far as I know, the idea of ‘curate your life’ originated with Dr David Ault. The image in this post is his. Dr David, most recently Senior Minister at one of the three CSLs in Atlanta, recognized that his spiritual path, and the paths of those who work with him, was best served by him leaving that position. He, and his ongoing work, can be followed at www.davidault.com. If you join up to receive his e-newsletter, you will also receive access to his free e-book/training program, How to Sand Your Rusted Thinking, A resource guide to learning tangible actions for increasing self-awareness and living the life you want. Sounds like a great tool to use in learning how to Curate Your Life more fully, should you be interested in that. Happy exploring!
–Rev Janis Farmer